negativity after you're married when it's irrelevant than beforehand, when it might start making you doubt your plans.
• If you are inviting a few guests, make sure they're the ones you really do want – there's no escaping them on the day if you're a very small party. Don't let anyone pressure you to bring along someone you don't genuinely want there.
• You might just want a few official pictures to document the little-big day: that's totally fine. Let your photographer know that's what you're after. Or, perhaps you'd prefer a proper portrait session somewhere picturesque – in that case, get your photographer involved in planning from the get-go, so you'll have the best schedule and location for lovely light, etc.
• Once you've said "I do", that doesn't need to be the end of it: a party for friends and family after the fact can be a handy halfway point between eloping alone and a big ol' wedding shindig. Do whatever works for you: there are no rules.